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EVERYTHING is interconneted. Asexual issues are not just asexual issues. Asexual issues are part of the larger queer community as well. And asexual issues are intertwined with other topics: gender, race, ability level, physical health, mental health, etc.
We will never stop commenting on issues of intersectionality, privilege, and oppression. So if that’s not your cup of tea, leave.
So, today has been an interesting day over on the asexualadvice blog, so I’m just going to take a moment to share this reply and give my kudos to the mods (particularly southpawscopic and nolivingunderstarlight, since they were the ones fielding the responses).
If you don’t believe in the concept of privilege and oppression, I strongly suggest that you take a Gender and Women’s Studies course and educate yourself, because privilege and oppression are HUGE issues in our modern day world and culture, and sources of SO MUCH CONFLICT. I’m not one to talk politics, I tend to AVOID it at ALL COSTS because it makes me severely anxious most of the time, but this? This needs to be talked about.
The concept of intersectionality is a HUGE DEAL. HUGE. DEAL. And this reply from Southie highlights just why it is so important that the asexualadvice blog does so well at what they do, which is that the mods are actively aware of the intersectional nature of our world - that is, they acknowledge that privilege is not equally given or taken, and identify that the world is more complex than we can easily identify in just a few words.
So telling them to stick to giving advice to people who identify as asexual? Means telling them to keep doing EXACTLY what they are doing. They are helping, on their own time, SO many people to learn how to exist in a world that is unfair to them, and I’m sorry if you don’t like that, but they are doing a DAMN good job of it. They are giving up THEIR time to help others, and doing it in such a way that shows that they are sensitive to the fact that this is not an easy world to live in. Their advice goes beyond “am I asexual” and helps people to navigate complex issues, and if you don’t like that, there are other blogs out there, other people who offer advice to asexuals that you can follow.
But I choose to follow them because they don’t shy away from the truth, and that is important to me. And so to ALL the mods, thank you. I’m proud of you and the work that you do, and I’m glad that for all the people speaking out, there are a dozen more of us out here who appreciate you and all you do.