Is (a)sexual a good resource orrr
It depends on what you want to learn. It shows a lot of examples of anti-ace things asexuals are up against, like Dan Savage, common anti-ace attitudes people have, and medical professionals thinking asexuality is inherently disordered.
I think there are a lot of much better resources out there, though. I just went to an ace meet-up today where we watched the documentary and discussed the possibility of organizing a public screening, and we reached the conclusion that it wasn’t worth it — that there are too many problems with it. It presents harmful reactions to asexuality without really addressing how or why they’re harmful, and it presents the views of people like Dan Savage in a pretty uncritical way. It also doesn’t provide very much actual information, and what it does have is presented incoherently and sloppily. You have to be already familiar with the community to get much out of it. Its value lies chiefly in the personal stories of actual aces — and you can find those all over the internet, with less of the proverbial bathwater.
tl;dr: Having just seen it, I think it has very little value as a beginners’ resource, given the plethora of better resources that are available.
My thoughts on (a)sexaul: by itself, it’s not a good educational resource; it’s an interesting and perhaps moving story of the experiences of some individual asexuals, which holds people’s attention well; but it’s not made to be educational so it doesn’t actually tell you much about asexuality in general.
I do see it as useful for vis/ed though in two main ways:
1. It shows up on mainstream video streaming places like netflix, which leads many people who would never otherwise learn about asexuality to stumble upon it, watch it, and then go look up better resources
2. While I wouldn’t use it alone, It definitely holds people’s attention better than say, a powerpoint presentation, and you can counter the lack of education by combining it with something else - for example, I did an event where we had a screening followed by a Q&A/discussion period with David Jay (which was also joined somewhat by me and a couple other local aces who came to see it), where we discussed what was problematic about some of those opinions and what exactly asexuality is and all that stuff the film neglects. Having a movie is a draw that will bring in people who otherwise wouldn’t come, so I still find it a useful starting point.
tl;dr: it’s not very education in and of itself, but it is interesting and will draw in lots of people who otherwise would not seek out any resources, and you can send them to more informative resources afterwards.
I was there for that!
I say meh on the movie, tbh.
I think there are def people who don’t feel the desire to have sex/sexual relationships with people or even romantic attachments with people, but I think it’s dumb that its considered a sexuality and that it’s expected to be taken as “Seriously” as gay/lesbian/ect
I don’t see you getting beaten and murdered for not wanting sex. And it seems the biggest issue is that people don’t believe you, but like, so what. Are they going to force you to have sex? Disown you because you don’t have sex? I doubt it.
TBH most of it just seems like a typical tumblr “haha here’s a label 4 me im so different wow look at me im so cool and unique and misunderstood praise me” kinda thing.
And of course this can be applied to demisexuality too. Like you need a label because you’re normal? lol. It just seems like a way to make yourself feel elite to people who don’t need emotional connections to fuck, tbh.
Repeat after me
"Your sexuality deserves to be taken seriously where or not your oppressed"
I’d really like to see someone go up to a straight person ask their sexuality and then tell them you don’t take them seriously because they aren’t oppressed.
Just gonna take a moment here…
I HAVE NOT COME OUT TO MY FAMILY AS ASEXUAL AND AROMANTICISH BECAUSE I AM SCARED OF THEIR REACTION.
I AM SCARED IF I TELL THEM “HEY I’M NOT GOING TO HAVE KIDS, OR MARRY, AND I PLAN TO REMAIN CELIBATE BECAUSE SEX MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE AND I DO NOT FEEL SEXUAL OR ROMANTIC ATTRACTION” THEY WILL DISOWN ME.
MY FAMILY IS A VERY CONSERVATIVE CHRISTIAN FAMILY. I GREW UP HEARING “QUEER” AS A SLUR. MY GRANDMA (who raised me) STOPPED WATCHING THE ELLEN DEGENERES SHOW BECAUSE SHE’S A LESBIAN AND HAS SHORT HAIR AND WEARS PANTS. WHEN I TOLD HER THAT NEIL PATRICK HARRIS WAS GAY, SHE TOLD ME I RUINED HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER FOR HER. I HAVE BEEN TOLD, TIME AND TIME AGAIN, THAT SHE EXPECTS GREAT-GRANDKIDS. I HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT I WILL FIND A GOOD MAN. ANY EXPRESSION OF NON-HETERONORMATIVE SEXUALITY WAS FORBIDDEN IN MY HOUSE.
I RELY ON THEM TO MAKE ENDS MEET. I AM NOT 100% FINANCIALLY STABLE. I WILL COME OUT, BUT WHEN I CAN SUPPORT MYSELF.
NOT TO MENTION THAT CORRECTIVE RAPE OF ASEXUALS IS A THING.
SO TAKE YOUR ASSUMPTIONS AND GO FUCK YOURSELF WITH A BARBED SPIKE.
So in preparation for asexual awareness week I was thinking we should make a big masterlist of asexual 101/asexual bloggers so we can share them with non ace people
The things required to be on the list-
•Must post mostly about asexuality
•Must be pro Demi/grey-a
•Must be willing to educate if asked questions about asexuality
•It’d be cool if you’d follow each other and me but no pressure
So reblog/message me if you’d be interested
I’d be interested :)
I’d be up!
Disclaimer:I have not been very active lately, due to personal mental issues. That said, I’ll pretty much answer any questions that end up in my ask, it may just take a week or so.
dont trust anyone who calls lgbtqai+ rights “gay rights”
Don’t trust anyone who leaves the “p” out of LGBTPQQIIAA
That’s why there’s a plus, and I prefer GSRM terminology.