Ace of Cupcakes

Ace of Cupcakes

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An Asexual question!

nextstepcake:

jukeboxweirdo:

Why is the flag black, grey, white, and purple?

Heya!

The asexual flag design was the result of a series of AVEN threads and off-site polls back in 2009-2010.

If you wanna see the creation process in action, check out these links (unfortunately, several of the images don’t display properly anymore):

Creation of the Ace Flagfirst suggestion, 1st flag thread by standup1st off-site surveyfirst round of voting on AVENsecond discussion thread, voting second round, final voting threadfinal winner announcement

As for whether there are meanings behind the colors-

The black, grey, and white stripes were largely inspired by the AVEN triangle (one of the more common asexual symbols before the flag came around). The AVEN triangle was originally based on the idea of a spectrum from sexual to asexual, with heterosexuality/homosexuality/bisexuality across the white area at the top, asexuality in the black bottom point, and [eventually] with shades of grey in between to represent the various forms of grey-asexuality.

<-the AVEN triangle

This gradient was eventually simplified into the black, grey, and white stripes on the flag, to represent all parts of the asexual spectrum.

As for the purple stripe (which represents “community”), that comes from the fact that the AVEN forums - which for many years were really the only forum around - had a purple skin, so purple had became kind of associated as the color of the asexual community. (As for why the forums were purple in the first place: I think it’s just cause it was one of the forum makers favorite colors)

I’ve heard a few things:
1a) David Jay heard a thing about alcohol
http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/143-t-shirts/page-2?hl=purple
1b) Amethyst also apparently stands for celibacay??? and David Jay (or someone, IDR, but I think it was David) used it as a “secret symbol” for a while
2) Purple = community
3) purple means community and it was pulled from the LGBTQ+ flag to mean the same thing and to connect our flag with their flag.

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princeloptr:

people who think “labels r bad” are laboring underneath a fundamental misunderstanding of language and of human psychology

i encourage these people to look up information on color as a social construct (heres a place to start)

why is this relevant? well, this might come as a shock to you, but the human ability to see and distinguish color is directly related to how we define color with words. the language of color usually evolves from a few dichotomies — dark and light, cold and warm. how it develops from there is dependant on the culture — and their environment — and the consequence of this is that different cultures may have completely different perceptions of color

if the language you have at your disposal doesnt distinguish between two types of color — for example, different warmths of brown, or the hue differences between yellow-green and blue-green — then you may find it difficult to actually see the difference between those colors. someone who speaks a language that does? would see the contrast like night and day

think about that for awhile. mull it over in your mind. think about all the things you begin to notice as soon as you learn the words for them. think about how taxonomy effects you in your daily life. NAMES ARE IMPORTANT. names are the difference between the visible and invisible

if you find yourself chafing at the idea of people giving names (“labels”) to themselves, think about this: what is it that youre trying not to see?

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Anonymous asked: Hi ahmmm i was wondering if you would like to help me to figure out what's my sexual orentation? I feel so lost and I'm really curious about me.

hello! I can try to help you. Feel free to message me off anon, or to stay on anon, whichever you prefer.

Filed under lost and curious anon Anon ask

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vegan-vulcan:

scherbensalat:

equalityformermaids:

yosssarian:

roserosetyler:

vixyish:

the-uncensored-she:

Tell me again why a women’s liberation movement is no longer needed.

Dear “I don’t need feminism” crowd…

“The Iowa Supreme Court on Friday stood by its ruling that a dentist acted legally when he fired an assistant because he found her too attractive and worried he would try to start an affair. Coming to the same conclusion as it did in December, the all-male court found that bosses can fire employees they see as threats to their marriages, even if the subordinates have not engaged in flirtatious or other inappropriate behavior. The court said such firings do not count as illegal sex discrimination because they are motivated by feelings, not gender." [x]

i hope all old white men burn in hell

Are you fucking kidding me.

"Afraid to start an affair" sounds a lot like "im probably gonna assault her" to me.

ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew men are fucking gross

vegan-vulcan:

scherbensalat:

equalityformermaids:

yosssarian:

roserosetyler:

vixyish:

the-uncensored-she:

Tell me again why a women’s liberation movement is no longer needed.

Dear “I don’t need feminism” crowd…

The Iowa Supreme Court on Friday stood by its ruling that a dentist acted legally when he fired an assistant because he found her too attractive and worried he would try to start an affair. Coming to the same conclusion as it did in December, the all-male court found that bosses can fire employees they see as threats to their marriages, even if the subordinates have not engaged in flirtatious or other inappropriate behavior. The court said such firings do not count as illegal sex discrimination because they are motivated by feelings, not gender." [x]

i hope all old white men burn in hell

Are you fucking kidding me.

"Afraid to start an affair" sounds a lot like "im probably gonna assault her" to me.

ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew men are fucking gross

(Source: yoursocialconstructsareshowing, via thedarkirishsilence)

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Anonymous asked: Hey.. I umm.. Have a question? I think I could be ace, but I'm not sure..? I'm twelve years old - which is probably too young to be thinking about sexuality anyway - but I've never had a crush on anybody - ever. Whenever I think about the future, I can only imagine myself being with someone I can hold hands with or hug. Perhaps it's the childish part of me, but I think both masturbation and sex are gross. Help? C:

Did you know that the average age of first sexual attraction is 10? You’re not out of the range, BUT if one of your peers said they were gay… would you think they were too young? Probably not. Identify away. I can tell you my sexuality and thoughts on sex and masturbation have changed drastically  since I was ehhhh… 8 or 9 or so when my friends started having crushes, but I’m just as asexual as I ever was. Just in a different way, with a different way of thinking about it. And, if at some point you realize you’re not asexual? That’s cool, too. Shit changes, we grow and change. It doesn’t mean you weren’t asexual 12-14 or whatever, it just means you changed. And sometimes things change, but sometimes they don’t. Sexuality is the same dealio.

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Anonymous asked: Hi!! I was wondering if it's possible to be grey-asexual and bisexual...? I mean, I like girls and guys and I'm attracted to both but lack the whole sex thing... I feel like I have to choose one but I'm so huge on bi pride and I feel like I'd be taking away part of who I am if I had to choose....

Yes you can! Since graces experience sexual attraction, that attraction can be focused on one gender, two genders, or more than two genders but not all genders or all genders! Some graces don’t experience sexual attraction often enough to know, realize, or care what gender(s) their attraction is directed towards, but some do.

Something else to look into is the idea of being biromantic. Even if you’re biromantic, grey-asexual, you can still identify as “bi” even if you fall into the category of “don’t experience it often enough to tell”.

TL;DR mix and match labels however you want. They’re there to serve you, not make you fit into strict boxes.

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Anonymous asked: Your posts about asexuality have helped me so so much and I just want to say thank you. you've given me the certainty of knowing who I am when all my friends are starting sexual relationships and it's made things in my life a lot easier to handle.

*flutters*

thank you! <3

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guilty-bodies:

a-boy-with-a-guitar:

sorayachemaly:

This should be posted in school hallways.

Why do you all assume guys are pro rape?

oh my fucking god shut up. She never said y’all are pro rape, but have you ever been to a high school or middle school? Boys are making rape jokes whenever they can and they think it’s hilarious but whenever a girl says she’s on her period y’all get uncomfortable. We understand that all men aren’t this way but she is talking about the ones who are. Chill.

guilty-bodies:

a-boy-with-a-guitar:

sorayachemaly:

This should be posted in school hallways.

Why do you all assume guys are pro rape?

oh my fucking god shut up. She never said y’all are pro rape, but have you ever been to a high school or middle school? Boys are making rape jokes whenever they can and they think it’s hilarious but whenever a girl says she’s on her period y’all get uncomfortable. We understand that all men aren’t this way but she is talking about the ones who are. Chill.

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sarahsupastar:

absolute-bollocks:

half-doomed-and-semi-sweet:

koblala:

im-in-lesbians-with-tony-perry:

soliloquyn:

therothwoman:

Can we talk about how Hairspray is a story where a not-conventionally-attractive girl gets the hot guy in the end without having to Become “Pretty.” Because we need more stories like that.

It’s also story about breaking down the barriers of racism which we also need more of.

And it’s about nice hair and cheesy dance moves, more things we need more of

It’s a movie where John Travolta plays a chic, which we need more of

No. We don’t need more of men in roles which should have gone to plus size women.

Actually, the role was written as a man playing a woman because it’s a pantomime technique so it’s not like the movie purposely discriminated, It was literally just written that way and it’s probably one of my favourite comedic techniques.

Actually, the role was written as a man playing a woman because in the original Hairspray movie the role was played by Divine, a radical and influential plus-size drag queen. It is in honor of that original casting and in Divine’s memory that more recent stage and movie adaptations of Hairspray have continued to cast Mrs. Turnblad as a man in drag.

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bunrobot:

yggdrasiu:

bunrobot:

do you ever see a teenager with colorful hair or an undercut in public and panic like ‘are you a fellow queer or just a hipster’

So if we are not queer we can’t color our hair or get an undercut unless we’re hipsters ? Man, that sucks…

you should probably just go

I dyed my hair when I was a teen.
Then I realized I was queer later.

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